Tragic News

While we were in AF, Kenny and I became very close friends with a gentlemen named Jeff. He was from the south so him and Kenny instantly hit it off. He shared our tiny office with us – making us coffee every morning – and we’d frequently play poker with him. Him and Kenny would always give me a hard time about everything.

I guess you could say he was Kenny and I’s Afghanistan Dad. He had recently become engaged to his high-school sweetheart from 20 yrs ago and was planing a huge vacation for his and her entire family upon his return. He was scheduled to return to the states two days from now. His year was almost up.

I came into work this morning, checked my email, and received an email telling me that Jeff had died last night from a heart attack. It took me a few moments to register what was real. Did he really die? How could that happen? How is that fair? He was early 40′s. I saw him less then a week ago and he was fine. More then fine, ecstatic to be so close to the end of his tour.

Kenny and I went to the Chapel here on base and prayed. I suddenly felt like a little kid during all this, who didn’t know what to do. I kept wishing my Great-Grandmother was here to help me pray. When I lived with her, we prayed every night and it felt right. Its another dose of reality, that I didn’t want to face.


  1. Mom Sandy said,

    November 4th, 2008 at 12:30 pm

    I am so sorry for the tragic news of losing someone you care about. Just remember that the glory of God is that we have a heavenly home awaiting us on the other side, it is only that we miss people who we care about when they are no longer here with us. But you will always have the memories you shared to comfort you in times of sorrow.
    I love you very much. Take care and write me sometime.
    As always.

  2. Albert Adams said,

    November 4th, 2008 at 7:58 pm


    My deepest sympathies over the loss of your friend. Praying at the base Chapel will help you, but it won’t be easy. I’ll say a prayer for you, Kenny, and Jeff today. Hang in there Julia and don’t be afraid to call someone. It always helps to talk.


  3. john mclean said,

    November 4th, 2008 at 10:37 pm

    Very sorry to hear about the loss Juls. Hope you can come to terms with it ok. Others are praying for you and your friend.



  4. Jess said,

    November 5th, 2008 at 9:54 pm

    I am so sorry to hear about your dear friend…my thoughts are prayers are with you and them at this tough time. I know I speak for more than myself when I say life is so precious and we must never take it for granted. And it sometimes takes a tragedy for us to open our eyes and appreciate each breath we take. Keep yourself close with friends/family/God. I’m here for you. Take care hun – love you!

  5. Wiley said,

    November 8th, 2008 at 3:34 am

    I’m sorry to hear of your loss – I’m thinking of you. Death seems to be the one thing that, no matter how grown up we think we are, makes us feel like inadequate, unprepared children again. I’m sure Jeff will be someone you won’t soon forget.

    As for prayer, I’m not sure there’s a right or wrong way to do it. God seems to have an ability to hear us regardless. Mind you, if there IS a right way, then take heart – he is definitely laughing at me, not you!

    Take care girl!

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